relationship

how can we be sure that he is the one?

i dont know.. until he said aku terima nikahnya..? haha.. 

in building relationship with man, i only get to the point of special friend.. and then its kind of stagnant.. 

then after some times, it started to get boring, and i suddenly become close with another man? 

ok.. tu sume dah berlalu.. haha.. i had enuff.. 

what i learn is, woman tend to fall in love first..

well, u may think the guy attracted to you.. and maybe he does attracted to you.. then everything went well and suddenly you have been telling all your besties that you have fallen in love with this guy..

but then, things got slow and you fight for your right of being left unattended by him then, suddenly you end up being alone.. again.. 

sad.. but i accepted that things happened.. 

i read few things about guy.. 'how you can tell if your boyfriend is falling in love with you'.. haha.. so, here is the 3 points.. 

credit to : http://www.evanmarckatz.com

1. believe the negative, not the positive.. i have been here.. let me explain the situation.. a guy attracted to you, he said he likes you, you are nice, cute and so on.. but then, he said he doesnt want commitment.. but you drop his statement and carry on giving attention to him and love him and care for him and in the end, you still feel hurt coz he doesnt want to have commitment with you.. just walk away and never look back to this kind of guy.. 

2. men reveal themselves in their action.. this blog said, look for action he does.. how he follows up after you r date.. calling you to set up another date.. and in between that, he calls and text you daily.. *never really had a real date before.. urm.. ke saya tak perasan? haha.. 

3. pay attention to his boyfriend behavior.. what a guy do when he crazy about you.. he calls, he introduce you to his friends and family.. ok.. yang ni, standard kot? haha.. everybody know how it works.. 

urm.. dont get too excited or intoxicated about a man.. bukan saya cakap mereka menipu, tidak.. tapi kita tak tahu apa yang mereka fikir tentang kita bukan.. jadi, beringat2 la untuk mngelak dari terluka lebih dalam.. *peringatan untuk saya juga.. ;-)

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right now, what i'm looking for is sum1 who listen, respect my feelings and can reassure me that he really wants me.. not sum1 who just attracted to me, say that i'm a potential wife then leave me as it is.. 

i'm not being demanding to anyone.. i have learned from my past relationship.. those traits is essentials in relationship.. girls, if you happen to be solo all this while, its kinda hard to tolerate with guys behavior when they start to show their hectic side.. yes, they can be romantic, give you dreams.. but.. then, they dont chit chat like girls do.. they dont talk about feeling often.. they like to work, they search for power, a title.. 

i thank God for letting me to feel hurt.. and learn that this life is not like a fairytale.. 

in love with men is not like love in fairytales.. where he understand you.. where he thinks of you every second.. 

in real life, he busy scratching his feet rather than have a focus on you all the time..

still, you can ask nicely for them to listen, and they will.. :)

but sometimes, guy have their hard time.. and they are pulling away.. girl can be understanding with this situation.. but please dont leave us too often as girl tends to forget how nice you have been before.. and please settle your problem fast as girl will miss you too much.. ngee.. 

p/s: read too many things about relationship recently and came out with this post.. and still searching for a REAL bf... sadisnye idup saya.. hahaha.. 

salam..